When thin is not enough
Do you know any unhappy people who are thin? I’m guessing the answer is yes.
We tell ourselves that “when I change my job or when I get a new car or when I lose 10kgs everything will be fine”.
The reality is that what we put on our plate in most cases echoes how we feel about ourselves and compulsive eaters are punishing themselves for past battles or something in the future that causes anxiety that hasn’t even happened yet and of course may never eventuate. Perhaps those battles are relationship issues with a mother, lover, sister or perhaps unfulfilled dreams that you think should have come true.
We constantly fight and punish ourselves, getting back at our perceived failures by stuffing as much into our body as we can. This gives us a numbing effect (like taking a drug) and we think all is good, however the hunger comes back and the problems of course are still living with us, staring us down and the cycle starts again.
Why does a bad day at work equate to an extra 1000 calories over dinner? Why smash your body in that way when the problem is not the food, it’s work?
We need to address, fairly and squarely the issues that drive our poor eating habits, clear the decks and live in the ‘now’ and fully accept who we are, who we really are right now.
When we are ready to give up our battles we are then ready to embrace food and life in a gentle, meaningful way, eating enough to sustain our bodies and respecting ourselves with all our human impurities.